Why Being Out in Nature Is Just What You and Your Child Needs

Does your child spend a lot of time in front of screen? I know mine does, either for school or for fun afterwards. Cartoons, Minecraft, Fortnight, YouTube…the list of entertaining reasons to enjoy a screen indoors is never-ending.

Here’s a huge bunch of reasons why it will benefit your loved ones to also spend more time outside in nature, and how it will help them build a better relationship to the planet at the same time.



We all know that fresh air and moving your body are good for you, and we can probably all remember being told by adults to “go play outside” as children, but why exactly is this such a good idea?

Being out in nature can be a natural antidote for stress.

You may think your child can’t possibly be stressed. With no responsibilities like bills, deadlines and mortgage payments, what could they possibly have to be worried and stressed about?

Well, actually, children are still learning so many things that we as adults take for granted. Concentration, and focus in school, how to navigate complex social relationships…These are just a few of them.

Being out in nature reduces blood pressure and stress hormone levels in your body, like cortisol. This is turn can enhance our immune system function, and improve mood. Who doesn’t want a better mood?

Speaking of mood, there’s research showing that being outside can reduce anxiety levels, build self-esteem and lower aggression. Also all things we wish for our children. And there’s even evidence to support that Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) lessens in natural environments.


A study done by Pieters, Ayala et al (2018,) found that being out in nature reduced people’s feelings of being isolated, made them feel much calmer, and even elevated their mood. Considering what many of us have just been through during the covid_19 pandemic when sheltering in place, feeling less isolated could be just what we need.

When we get sunlight exposure our body produces vitamin D, which has a whole host of health benefits. Vitamin D aids metabolism, keeps your bones and teeth strong and lifts your mood. It can even support a healthy pregnancy. It has also be found to ward off osteoporosis, boost your immune system, and support heart, lung, and brain health. 

Now, some of the things I’ve just mentioned you may have heard of before. But this next reason might be a complete eye-opener.

When we spend time outdoors barefoot on the earth, we engage in “grounding.” 

What on earth is grounding?


Well, “grounding” or “earthing” is when we have direct physical contact with the ground, which has been shown to have beneficial physiological effects. The idea behind this is that we connect to the earth’s subtle electric charge, and that this benefits us.


This is for several reasons.
One is that the earth has a negative charge, and is constantly generating electrons that can neutralise free radicals in our bodies, therefore acting like antioxidants. Antioxidants usually come from certain foods, but can also come directly from the earth in this way. An easy way to remember this is antioxidants are good for our health, free radicals are bad.


Another benefit is that is helps support our circadian rhythms and nervous system too. Our circadian rhythms keep us synchronised with the day/night cycle. This feeds into how we regulate things like hormone secretion, body temperature, digestion and blood pressure, amongst several other things. Desynchronisation of our internal clocks has been linked to health problems.

Grounding has been demonstrated to reduce inflammation, improve blood flow and reduce pain, and encourage better sleep. What’s not to like?


The reason we ground less nowadays, is because we not only spend much more time indoors in school or at work, but even when we are outside we are often wearing shoes. This leads us to be disconnected from the earth in ways we didn’t used to be.

You and your family can ground by walking barefoot on grass or the earth, swimming in natural bodies of water, or even sitting in or leaning against a tree.

The only thing I’ll just point out is that of course in modern day society we need to be aware of things like pollution and pesticides, so choose where you ground wisely – and if you have pets running around in your garden, maybe keep an eye out of poops! 

So, as you can see there are many good reasons to spend time out doors, playing, grounding and having fun.


The other added bonus is that the more your children spend time in nature, the more they will start noticing the seasons, the creatures that live outdoors, and the plants – and how these things change. This will help them build better a relationship with nature, and help them understand why it’s so important that we take care of our planet by making good choices.
If they can learn how nature has an impact on us (for example through grounding) then they can also see how we have an impact on nature.


On the Brink

My to-do list screamed at me.

It started as whispering at first.

Whispers that would creep into the silences, into the gaps during my day.

Then it got louder, until it filled every space inside me, it became a roar, distracting me from any sense of peace,and made me feel like I too would start screaming.

Looking around at the papers on my desk, the unwashed dishes, the mountain of unfolded laundry, a wave of overwhelm crashed on the shores of my mind.
Not sandy beaches,
but jagged edges.
Shards of rock.

Everywhere there were reminders of what I should be doing, of actions I should be taking.
Spiky.
Protruding thoughts.
Disarray.

I looked my chaos in the eye.
I held it’s gaze. And then I turned my back on it.

The internal storm was dissolved as I climbed into the bath that I couldn’t afford to take in the middle of the day.

Eventually,
Chaotic feelings snuffed out,
harsh voice of to-do gone.

Another voice emerged as I sat in that tub.

This one I listened to.
This one had answers.
This one was kind.

I just hadn’t heard it under all the chatter, the noise of “shoulds” and internal accusations.

This voice is quiet,
calm,
knowing.

In no rush at all.
Trusting.

I realised then, this voice isn’t going anywhere.
It’s me who abandons myself when I allow the voice of “to-do” to become louder and more important than the other voice.

I get to choose which I listen to.

I hold the power.


If you, or someone you know is suffering from burn-out, check out this article right here which has some useful pointers for how to claw your way out of the hole you may feel you’re in.


Are You on the Brink of Burn-out?

Mothers burn-out is no joke.


As a parenting coach, I see it all the time. Many of the women that I work with – once vibrant excited beings, come to me exhausted, lacking confidence and motivation.

Burn-out, a term coined in the 1970s by the American psychologist Herbert Freudenberger, is when there are consequences to being under extreme pressure. Typically it can be exhaustion, overwhelm and inability to cope. It used to be reserved for people in “helping professions”, but can now apply to others too – including busy parents. Mothers get hit big time with burn-out as they are the ultimate “giver” – it doesn’t get much more “helping profession” than this – except they don’t get paid, and oftentimes even valued for the hard work they do, which is never ceasing.

The demands and high standards set for motherhood are impossible to live up to. Throw in some comparison on social media where people are posting pictures of how “right” they’re getting it, and it can often send moms into a shame spiral, leading them to try even harder, or give even more. Mother’s guilt is a real-life voice inside your head, and it judges every move that you make. It isn’t satisfied if you go out to work, and it isn’t satisfied if you stay home to raise the kids. It feels like you just can’t win.

Juggling the endless demands of motherhood is super hard, but I am here to relieve some of your burden and give you some tips that can help.

Firstly, there is a big difference between stress and stressors.
Stressors are the things stressing you out. Stress is the emotional and physical reaction you have in response to the stressor. You may not be able to change the stressor, but you can deal with the stress while the stressor is ongoing – and that my friend is GREAT news.

The human body was built to deal with acute stressors – like predators appearing out of nowhere to eat us. We were designed to drop everything and focus on nothing but survival in that moment. That means super charging our muscles so that they can run and we can flee, that means being instantly pumped full of adrenalin and other wonderful hormones that can help us get out of this situation alive. In those moments of stress and problem-solving, our bodies were also designed to switch off unnecessary things like learning, sex-drive, and immune function.

We, as humans, are amazing. We are survivors.

The thing is, nowadays the stressors in our lives aren’t lions chasing us. They are chronic ongoing stressors, like deadlines, road-rage, snarky neighbours, to-do lists, and feeling like there’s not enough hours in the day for all our tasks.

If our body is in survival mode or fight-flight-freeze mode for too long we start to feel the consequences. It starts to affect our mood, our sex-drive, our immunity. 

Why am I telling you all this?

Because we can’t always change the stressors – but we can change how our body feels about them. 

Easy steps you can do to change your body state quickly are tensing all your muscles for 10 seconds and then releasing. Do this a couple of times in a row and it can help release some of the tightness you’re feeling and sending your brain a message that the threat is gone, your body is allowed to relax now.
Physical movement is also great way to do this – so whether you’re into dance, karate, circuit training, running or yoga…using your body can help deal with stress.
Once some of that body tension is out, breathing exercises can really benefit you too. Again, changing your breathing can demonstrate to your body that you are safe and there’s no need to keep pumping stress-hormones.

Also, in order to prevent yourself from even getting to the point of burn-out, self-care is necessary.
I can almost feel you rolling your eyes right now. Who has time for self-care? When we are as busy as we are, there’s no time for anything but the bare necessities. When you’re running from task to task, appointment to appointment, who has time for a massage or a bubble bath? 

The truth is self-care isn’t all about bubble baths and pedicures.

Self-care is creating a life that you don’t need to escape from. 

It’s saying no to certain things so that you don’t overload yourself, and learning to prioritise your time differently. It’s looking after yourself and realising that relaxation is as important as breathing to your physical health. It is showing your body that there is no threat or predator so it’s safe for you to relax and switch back into learning and optimal immune function mode. Otherwise our health suffers, and if we burn out we are no good to anyone else. Better to look after yourself early mama, before it’s too late and you can’t function at all. You’ve got to fill your own cup so that you can better pour and give to others. Running on empty doesn’t help you or anyone else. Also, by looking after yourself you are teaching your children a valuable skill – how to listen to what their bodies are telling them they need. They learn by our role-modelling.

It’s learning to tune into how you’re feeling inside. When you are exhausted, that is not the time to volunteer to be the one to bake 140 cupcakes for the school bake sale or the one sewing costumes for the school play. Cut back on your tasks for the week when you feel yourself getting over-tired.

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On the brink

My to-do list screamed at me.


It started as whispering at first.
Whispers that would creep into the silences, into the gaps during my day.
Then it got louder,
until it filled every space inside me,
it became a roar, distracting me from any sense of peace,
and made me feel like I too would start screaming.

Looking around at the papers on my desk, the unwashed dishes, the mountain of unfolded laundry, a wave of overwhelm crashed on the shores of my mind.
Not sandy beaches, but jagged edges. Shards of rock. 

Everywhere there were reminders of what I should be doing, of actions I should be taking. Spiky. Protruding thoughts. Disarray.

I looked my chaos in the eye.

Defiantly, I held it’s gaze.
And then I turned my back on it. 

The internal storm was dissolved as I climbed into the bath that I couldn’t afford to take in the middle of the day.

Eventually,
Chaotic feelings snuffed out, harsh voice of to-do gone. 

Another voice emerged as I sat in that tub.


This one I listened to.
This one had answers.
This one was kind.

I just hadn’t heard it under all the chatter,
the noise of “shoulds” and internal accusations.

This voice is quiet, calm, knowing.
In no rush at all.
Trusting.

I realised then, this voice isn’t going anywhere. It’s me who abandons myself when I allow the voice of “to-do” to become louder and more important than the other voice.

I get to choose which I listen to.

I hold the power.




21 DAYS TO BUILDING A NEW HABIT – DAY 20

21 DAYS TO BUILDING A NEW HABIT.

DAY 20

COMMITMENT.

This commitment to bettering yourself is about so much more than ‘just’ this little habit. Think of what you are showing the world.

That is CAN be done.

That it is possible to make changes.

That if YOU can do it, so can THEY.

That a life worth living might need an upgrade, and it’s possible.

You are role-modelling for others and giving them permission to go for their dreams too. You are role-modelling a new healthy behaviour for your family, friends, children…

.You are showing up for yourself, and by extension for your loved ones every day that you engage in your new habit. Be proud. You are part of something bigger that ripples out. The changes you are making are changing the world.

Be the change you wish to see in the world – Ghandi.

See you tomorrow for day 21!

Go back and read DAY 19 HERE.


21 DAYS TO A NEW HABIT – DAY 19

DAY 19

SUCCESS FAVOURS THE STUBBORN.

Refuse to quit.

Turn your back on the naysayers, and on the rain-on-your-paraders. Success favours the stubborn. The determined. The refuse-to-quitters.

Get comfortable with being uncomfortable sometimes, because building a new habit isn’t all rainbows and kittens and sunshine and ice cream at the park. It will be hard work, but stay determined and you will get there.

Drama will come, but you don’t have to buy into it, or feed it.

Instead of pulling everyone into your drama with you, observe it. Be unimpressed (because drama loves an audience).

For example, if you’re DYING for a cigarette, instead of telling everyone just observe it. “oh isn’t that interesting? I feel like throwing myself out this window I am so fidgety right now because I really want a cigarette. Interesting. I think I’ll go for a walk instead.”Or “wow, I really want to quit this workout even though I’m only half way through. Interesting. I want to shout and swear and get angry and leave. Instead I will take a deep breath and keep going for five more minutes, and see how I feel then.”

Be stubborn..Shout positive slogans inside your head. Keep going. Get out your mantra.

Say it first thing in the morning, last thing at night. When it gets hard, when it’s easy. Say it over and over. Mean it. Believe it. Become it.

See you tomorrow for day 20!

Go back and read DAY 18 HERE


21 DAYS TO A NEW HABIT – DAY 18

21 DAYS TO A NEW HABIT (parenting or otherwise).

DAY 18

PRACTICE MAKES BETTER.

Screw perfection, perfection is an action killer.

When we focus on getting something just right or ‘perfect’ it can overwhelm us, or make us freeze, and we often end up taking no action at all because of all the pressure we put on ourselves.

Instead aim for ‘good enough’ and it will take you much further. My mantra when taking on a new habit or completing a big project is ‘done is better than perfect’ One of my mentors always say she aims for B grade work rather than A+. This attitude will stop you from freezing up, and will keep you moving.

If you can’t run, walk.

If you can’t walk, crawl.

If you can’t crawl, drag your sorry-ass bag of bones across the floor if you need to. Just keep moving.

If you’ve decided that your new habit will be becoming a good listener, then practice! Practice every chance you get. On the bus listen to your fellow passenger talking, listen attentively. In the doctor’s waiting room, listen and focus like never before while little Mr. Old tells you all about why he’s there and his weird long list of symptoms. Ask the bartender how THEIR day was, and then listen with an open heart.

Practice, practice, practice.

You will notice an improvement in your skills, and you will start to see yourself as the patient person you are underneath it all.

The more you identify with your habit, the stronger it becomes.

Be patient, keep going. You’re getting there.

See you tomorrow for day 19.

Go back and read DAY 17 HERE. Go to DAY 19 HERE


21 DAYS OF BUILDING NEW HABITS – DAY 17

21 DAYS OF BUILDING NEW HABITS.

DAY 17

GET CONFIDENT.

Tap into your confidence about how well you are now doing this new habit. It’s not even that new to you any more.

Push your fears and doubts aside and reside in that confident, self-assured place. Your fears and doubts aren’t true anyway (remember not to believe every thought you have).

You take on a lot of other people’s beliefs during your childhood, because as children we are like little sponges absorbing everything around us and taking it at face value as the truth. They are actually JUST beliefs, and some of them probably weren’t even your own. You don’t have to keep those beliefs if they aren’t serving you. So ditch the doubt.

A happy mind = a happy body. There is a powerful mind-body link and you can use this to your advantage when building your new habit.

When something negative happens we go into a state of stress and start focusing on the negative that has happened, even though that’s not the ONLY thing going on. For example, if someone got bitten by a snake or received a bad diagnosis, they would most often go into a state of fear. When we are in “fight, flight or freeze,” we actually produce more stress hormones that in turn sabotage our healing. The stress hormones cortisol and adrenalin suppress our immune function – so being in a state of fear doesn’t help us. They only help us if the stressful situation is acute, rather than a chronic stressor. So for example, if we needed to run from a predator RIGHT NOW, then adrenaline is awesome because your body uses it to run faster or fight harder. But if the stressor is a more long term issue than a quick run, like if you’ve been given a bad diagnosis or have been put on probation at work, then those hormones won’t help you feel better in your body or in your mind. Our bodies weren’t designed with modern day society’s chronic stressors in mind.

So do whatever it takes to cultivate feel-good hormones. Get the dopamine and serotonin flowing, and get into a state of wellbeing and confidence instead. It will take you further with your new habit.

Ways to build confidence can be to sit up straight and start acting like the person you are becoming. Ooze with confidence. This habit is so normal and every day now, that it’s not even a big deal. If you’re eating healthier, that bag of open potato chips your kids have got isn’t even something that registers on your radar. You just walk on by because you have more important things going on.

Another way to build confidence is to write down 3 things you didn’t think you could accomplish. When you did something you didn’t think you’d be able to. Remind yourself how awesome you are.

See you tomorrow for day 18!

Go back and read DAY 16 HERE. Go to DAY 18 HERE


21 DAYS of BUILDING A NEW HABIT – DAY 16

21 DAYS of BUILDING A NEW HABIT – DAY 16


For those of you who are new and are joining us we are looking at habits and why we might want to break bad ones or build new healthy ones. It might be that you want to lose some weight so you have more energy to keep up with your kids when you play at the park. It might be that you want to be more patient and shout less….whatever it is, follow along and see what tips there are here, and you can go back and find the previous 15 posts – because there’s one every day for 21 days.
It only takes 21 days to create a new neural pathway in the brain and build a new habit.


Day 16
AN ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE

I love tapping into gratitude, because it’s the fastest way to shift out of a crappy mood. When we remember what we have, and how lucky we are to have it, something magical happens.
So shift your perspective.
Instead of an “I have to____” mindset, shift it to “I get to_____”


Be grateful for how far you’ve already come.
Be amazed and appreciative of your progress and determination.



It’s not about denying your difficult emotions, it’s just about not being a prisoner to them.
They exist, we don’t need to deny that, but it’s about focusing on the other positives that are also present.

For example, you could focus on how old you are getting and freak out about new wrinkles that are appearing. You could choose to think about it a lot, talk about it a lot, and look at your wrinkles in the mirror several times a day, judging them each time.
OR, you could choose to think, yes they are there, they aren’t going anywhere, but I am the youngest I will ever be today. I have the most energy and the most youthful glow I will ever have again. Besides being older with a few wrinkles is better than the alternative (not being wrinkled, but also not being alive) You could choose to appreciate how incredible and magical life is, choose to be present and grateful for this day you’ve been given instead of taking it for granted.

Make a list of all the things that you are grateful for, including the new positive things that your new habit is bringing you.

Adopt an attitude of gratitude and your habit may just get easier. When we have a strong reason for creating a new habit, that can spur us on and make us feel grateful for why we re doing it in the first place.



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See you tomorrow for day 17!


Go back and read DAY 15 HERE.